Why Do Men Move on Quicker than Women in Relationships?

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Heb 13:4

It has always bothered me (because of my painful family history in this regard ) Why Men Move on Quicker From Relationships? Why Men have no regrets about leaving their families for a new life with other women. In my life, I have seen that ‘Nothing’ ties a man down, even if you have a dozen kids if he wants to leave, he will — except, God intervenes and, averts the break up of the home.

A woman would endure a bad marriage, traumatic memories, physical battery, poverty and lack of care from the man and, still stay back home with a man for the sake of the kids or just for love.

Men, on the other hand, are a different kettle of fish, a man can just up and leave because, his wife lost her looks, grew fat, fell ill, was demoted at work, not a good cook, not all he wants in a woman.

Flimsy as these points are, many women have lost their marriages for one insignificant issue or the other. Some men divorce their wives for not traveling with them to the village, for daring to have an opinion, for going on a business trip, for registering a course against their wish, for not giving them enough money as they used to, for going to church etc.

I get traumatized, when I ponder on the issue:

I always ask myself, how can a father, look at his kids and say ‘bye’ or worse, kick them out of the house onto the streets? How can you live with yourself, knowing that you just walked away from the people, you once said, you loved?

Do you start procreating all over again? Do you look at your new baby and tell them stories of their older siblings? Men! I can’t deal with your nature.

You see this celebrity with his wife and the next he is shacking – up with a new girl and expecting a baby with her and am like —how do guys do that? I mean, is it just me or does anyone else find it odd that men find it so easy to jump from woman to another? I had to ask my husband  — “why do men find it easier to walk away from relationships than women?“, “Don’t they have regrets?”, “Don’t they just feel weird being with a new person after they left their wives?”, “what’s inside a man’s heart and how do they reason? ”

He answered –men are highly visual in nature, men seek new thrills, new territory to be conquered and that makes it easy for them to change lanes but the reasons they leave their family, he can not understand the psychology behind that.

I surmise that Women are wiser, calmer and highly emotional when it comes to making decisions concerning the home because that’s how God made women. Men just go with the flow. Wow!

 

Still, I would love to hear what you think about this issue, as this matter is a thing of great worry to me.

 

Shalom